Have you come across mothers who does these?
-Makes a large Pizza for their child for lunch?
-Tags along with their children to music concerts!
-Lets their children go to parties!
Generally, such mothers are labeled as cool moms!
So, what does it take to be a cool mom?
Certainly, it is more than spending money on your child buying gifts or letting them attend parties. It’s a matter of the heart.
It is more about being considerate about your child’s wellness.
Cool moms are generally confident parents.
Usually, cool moms recognize their child as an individual who has the right to make choices about his/her life.
All SOLO.
It is about accepting the fact that children can grow up to be completely different.
Let’s quickly check the signs that you are a cool mom!
- You avoid abusing your authority over your child!
- You never crush your child’s spirit!
- You can handle your child being furious at you!
Usually, mothers cross the fine line and tend to cling to their children for emotional strength, approval, or forgiveness for past mistakes.
If you are one such mom who is behaving in such a manner. STOP!
Let your child enjoy his/her privacy.
Stop hovering around them, and instead, rekindle with your long lost hobbies.
Don’t jump into any given trends to please your child or their friends.
Such actions generally can come off as annoying and desperate. It can also have a damaging effect on your emotional well-being.
Always set healthy boundaries for your children!
Let us understand with an example!
Scene 1:
Daughter: I want to dye my hair!
Mother: Cool, I’ll take you to a salon. Dye it red; you will look like a princess!
Scene 2:
Daughter: I want to get a tattoo!
Mother: No, darling!
Conclusion:
The mother allowed her to dye the daughter’s hair red because hair dye is not permanent. There’s no involvement of risk.
On the other hand, a tattoo is a permanent mark. It has risks involved, and the little girl is not equipped to make such a choice. What if she grows up and regrets the decision? Hence, learn to choose your battles.
The majority of the parents aspire to do their responsibilities perfectly. Nonetheless, most of them are scared of messing up.
Therefore, they say “NO” to most activities like sleepover invitations, trip opportunities, and clothing choices.
The crux is if you are hell-bent on imparting morals and decision-making skills, trust your children regarding their life choices.
Even if they end up making bad decisions, so what?
Bad ones will help them to acquire life lessons which no books or hours of lectures can!
Instead, focus on how you can talk about it later and help them sort through the emotional strings.
We suggest, tweak the status from “No” to “Why not?” and see the difference.
Put more effort into weaving a close relationship with your child where your little one can converse without any fear.
Cast aside the judgment and make sure you listen to your child’s problems genuinely.
From time to time, put-forward your opinion.
Don’t hesitate to discuss topics like sex, bi-sexuality, and trans-gendered relationships. At the same time, make sure your child is comfortable engaging in the conversation.
It can get really awkward. WE UNDERSTAND!
However, to be a cool mom, you have to unzip your lips and let the chat session flow.
